David's Blog

ZERO

All the girls at pole dancing class were amazing.
They are getting closer to be as great like their teacher Cinthya.
The students know many moves and difficult ones - Wow!
What makes the teacher stand out is:
She makes it look appear so easy, like it is not exhausting or hard.
Then I was thinking, she started like everyone: at zero.
She has been struggling, too. Maybe she had points in her journey, where she wanted to stop or didn't believe she can't be on the top.
But you can see: she believed in herself and never stopped practicing and believing!
And her students are on their way to be on the top, too!
We have to remember, we all start at zero.
It's great to be with people who are persistent and have strong faith. Inspiring!
And if we are aware that they were where we are today, we know we can achieve the same:
By being persistent and believing that we can go from ZERO to HERO!‚Äč

JUST ASK

It has been a dream of mine to shoot sensual photos.

Recently I asked myself: "What did you do to achieve your dream?" - Nothing.
And why call it a dream? Dreams are not real, they are dreams.
"Let's not dream anymore! - Let's plan!"
I started asking! And I got a YES!
That's just the beginning. I will ask more.
And I already have plans for more sensual shootings!

NO MORE DREAMS!

We are programming ourselves wrong by saying "my dream is.."
Dreams are not real.
From now on I will say: "my plan is.."
Dreams are for the night. Plans are for the day.
Enough of the dreaming!
Let's start planning & doing!

Just ask. The chance to get a yes are much higher if you ask.
If you don't ask then it is a NO by default.

ASK!

Big applause for the girls! They did their thing for 2 hours! I tried it and it was too much already after a few minutes.

TO MY LOVE

You are the first thing I think of when I wake up.

The moment you touch my lips in the morning is the best!
You bring color into my life.
Once you are in my system, you make me dance!
A day without you? Horrible! It gives me a big headache.
You make me happy no matter what state you are in: regular with chile, espresso, cappuccino or latte machiato.
Sometimes I am with you too much.. and you keep me up at night.
But no problem, even if I sleep a little - you give me energy the next day!
Sometimes I go with energy drinks (it's not the same!). But you always forgive me!
How would life be without, my love? No, I don't want to imagine that.
Stay with me - Always!

I love you!

MEXICO

One of the many reasons I love Mexico is:

You can make jokes about other people and they love it!
Also they make jokes about themselves and you!
In Mexico people have a good sense of humor. Not at all sensitve!
So, if you visit Mexico - don't be offended if people make jokes on your account.
They don't have bad intentions. That's just the culture!

With Raul (the security guard) you can make all kinds of jokes!

Me: Look, you have a twin!
Raul: Oh, I never saw him.
Me: More security! They should pay you double!
Raul: Yes! Double food & double vacation!
David: He is more black than you!
Raul: Yes, they let my brother longer in the sun!

FREEDOM

No matter which place I have been living, birds always came to my home and were living with me. Some made even a nest!

I like symbolism - Birds represent freedom.
We humans don't have wings, but we can be free, too.
Free of the need of approval, free of worries, free of any kind of dependence, free of debt , free of pain.
There are many things we are or could be free of!

From what do you want to be free? What things (or people) right now in your life are not letting you to be free?

Look at that thing/person who is not letting you to be free and make a decision to mentally fly away from it.

WANT

The weekend trip I planned did not work out as I wanted.

I wanted something and I did not get it.
Later I realized that I really did not want it.
I asked myself "Why did I want it? - What's behind the WANT?"
Then I realized what I desire. But the means to get it I don't want.
Complicated, right?
An unrelated example:
You want a cigarette. Then you smoke it and find it disgusting. Why did you want it?
To change your state and to get a dopamine rush. But there are better ways to fulfil that need.
You can go for a walk to change your thoughts or do intense exercise to get the same effect (even better).
You want something but the method to get it you don't really want.
Maybe you think that's the only or best option. No, it isn't!
Or you want 1 Million Dollars. Why do you want it?
Security, less worries, status, living your dreams, a new car, creating a company, etc.....
Why?
And can't you achieve the same without the Million Dollars? YES!
Imagine you have all those things! What's next?
Behind all the desires there is something behind it.
Maybe it is significance? But that you can achieve without the Million.
Like with the cigarette. There is a reason behind it. Do you know it?
What is the desire? And how can we achieve it?
To feel significant in life - you can that, even without the Million!
From now on I will ask myself: "What is behind the desire? And what are my options? There is not only ONE way to fulfil that desire!

BLOCK IT

Did you ever think how much the daily words and thoughts affect your happiness?

Bad news starting in the morning. Later in the day you hear people complaining.
In between you give attention to your thoughts of worry.
On the way home you hear somebody telling a bad story.
At home you watch a movie about people killing other people and you end the day with some more bad news.

Now let's imagine another routine.
You get up, read some inspiring quotes. Be grateful for what you have.
Later you meet people complaining. You smile and ask them "what good did you experience today?". "For what are you grateful today?".
Worries come and you smile. I will win this game! And come to the next level.
Somebody you know, tells you a bad story. You ask: What is the good in the bad story? "How can you benefit? Also, tell me something good you experienced today!"

Everywhere there is negativity waiting to enter our system. People do not notice!
Be on guard, be aware. Once you are aware you can block it.

"What you pay attention to grows"

HAPPY

Music makes happy! You, scientists - we all know that!

But did you know it helps to ease pain and depression?
Very powerful!
When you listen to music the brain releases dopamine.
Music also helps to perform better at the gym and sports. Legal, natural doping!
It has the power to release in us different kind of emotions and even goose bumps!

Other benefits:

- Reduce anxiety as much as a massage
- Improves visual & verbal skills
- Keeps an aging brain healthy
- Improves sleep quality
- Boosts your immune system
- Music helps Alzheimer's patients remember
- Music raises IQ and academic performance

WOW - Thank you for the music!

BEAUTY

What is beauty and who defines it?

A famous woman on a cover magazine with a lot of make up, professional lighting / photographer and A LOT of photoshop - this is beauty?
Maybe I need glasses or something is wrong with me. I don't like any of the famous female models.
They are all plastic to me - mannequins.

For me beauty is a mix of personality, smile, a big heart, humor and the way of thinking. And also how a woman treats me. That is beauty!

Sometimes it happened to me, that you see a pretty woman (walking down the street). Pretty by worldly standards.
And then she opens her mouth and she loses all the beauty she had before.

On the covers there should be women with attractive personalities and not mannequins with tons of makeup.

And I am sure that those famous models can be beautiful, too! Stop putting tons of make up on, put away the arrogance, the empty stare, eat some more food and show your real you!
Yes, show your fears and weakness - that is attractive!

ANGRY

Anger and sadness go hand in hand. Being angry is a sign that someone is not happy.

Imagine the situation: You drive home to work and somebody cuts you off in traffic: you take it personal and you get angry.
Next morning you wake up and realize you won the lottery. Now you drive to the bank to get the money.
On the way to the bank, again somebody cuts you off. Do you feel angry? Do you think how unfair the world is and how people are ignorant?
Do you take it personal?

No way! You don't care! You are happy! You see! People and circumstances are not causing your anger - You are!

If someone is angry, they are not happy. Make them happy! Say a compliment or show them understanding.
Don't let the anger go over to you. Stop it immediately by showing compassion.

And if you are angry? What causes you unhappiness right now in your life? How can you fix it?

Be happy!

CRITICAL VOICE

Don't argue with your critical voice in your head. Don't tell it "shut up".

That doesn't help. It makes it worse.
Not giving attention is the best to shut up that voice.

Psychology:
Like with kids, workers, partners and dogs:
"Ignore bad behavior and reward good behavior."
Don't give attention to bad thoughts or bad behavior.
Reinforce the good thoughts and good behavior.

For example:
You have a girlfriend who causes drama.
Don't get emotional. She will know that she can get your attention and a reaction out of you.
Bad. You will reinforce bad behavior. The drama will increase.
Better ask: "Do you want to fight or resolve this like adults?".
If she doesn't cooperate, walk away - every time.
When there is a fight and you apologize, give more attention, more affection and good make up sex -
you just reinforced her bad behavior and she will repeat it even more. And soon you will live in a soap opera.
No, better give a lot of attention and affection when she is doing good things for you.
What ever you reward (and put attention to) good or bad - it will grow.

Ignore bad behavior and only reward good behavior.

That applies to any aspect of human (or animal) connections.
And also to thoughts. Ignore the critical voice, don't argue and don't get emotional about it.

PRESENCE

Something attracted me to take the picture of the gentleman in the restaurant.

I didn't know first what it was. Later I looked at the photo and realized what fascinated me in that moment:
Everybody was doing something, having headphones in their ears, reading a newspaper, talking or being on the phone.
He was just being present. People always need some distraction.
Can you imagine waiting somewhere and just "being" instead of "doing" (distraction).
Being "in the moment" gives you "presence", which gets you attention from other people.
His presence caught my attention!

Is technology really helping us to make better connections?
I don't think so.

Next time when you are waiting and public: don't pull out your phone.
AND.
Look how many people are not taking part of life.
It's crazy how many! I am guilty of it, too.
That's not being present!
I make a promise to myself:
Only to use the phone to respond to important messages.
No more browsing the internet in public.
You are in line in a coffee shop?
Observe the people - Smile, make connections!

LOVE SYMBOL

In Leon there is a bridge where couples who are "in love" or should I rather say: "on love", like they are "on drugs"? (Which they indeed are - technically).

They put a lock as a symbol of love on the bridge.
Really? That's the correct symbol?
Locks represents: you want to keep something secure. Or you want to lock somebody away (prison). Locks are about CONTROL.

People think when they are "in love" that is love.
No, those are chemicals. Beautiful ones, for sure!
But, love is not a feeling. It is an ACTION.
If you really love someone, you let them be free and not try to change or control them. The person you "love" is not your property.

What happens if you grab a soap tight in the shower?
It will slip away.

For me the symbol of love is: a soap.

Grab it to hard, it will slip away.
Try to change its form (demands), it won't be beautiful anymore.

If you love someone, let them go, let them be free, let them BE and accept them as they are.

If you try to control someone, try to change them or put them in a prison:
It is selfish and not love.

"I love you when....."
This is not love. This is manipulation.

What symbol do you think represents best "love" ?

PRESENT

Some surreal moments from a party at the countryside.

Good conversations.
One topic stayed in my mind.
We were talking how fast time goes by.....
It's true!

"It is not the years in your life but the life in your years that counts."

We are wasting time by worrying, being nostalgic and planning.
"I'll be happy when.."
No!
NOW is the time to be happy and to live.
The past and the future doesn't exist.
If we are living in the past or in the future, were are missing the PRESENT!

It's called present because it is a present.

Don't waste this moment with thinking too much about yesterday or tomorrow.

WATER

We all know how amazing and essential water is for life. There are many interesting facts!

But did you know that water has kind of a consciousness?

Scientist did an experiment, exposing different kinds of music to water. After it they froze the water and observed it under a microscope.
Classical, happy music produced beautiful crystals. Heavy metal, aggressive and sad music resulted in deformed crystals.

The same results were found with words. Words were spoken regulary to the water. Same results like with the music. Positive words: symmetrical, beautiful crystals.
Negative words: deformed crystals.

The average human body is about 60% water. Think about that!

Our words and thoughts have power. It effects water! How much of an impact do they then have on us and others?

Massive!

So take care what you think and say.

HIGH HEELS

Women look and walk super sexy with high heels.

The only disadvantge is: as a man you have to slow down (a lot) if you accompany a woman with high heels.
But it's totally worth it!
Did you know that the first high heels were worn by men?
Yes, the French royals long time ago wore them, then women.
Am I jealous? No at all! I prefer women wear them.
I could not imagine walking slow, taking care of my balance, having to watch my every step and having pain in the of the day.

Ladies, thank you for sacrificing yourself to look pretty for us!

MYSTERY

"Anything that is kept secret or remains unexplained or unknown"

Of course, if someone wants a portrait, they want to be seen!
But why not have some "mystery" shots as well?
I can't explain why I am so attracted to this type of photos.
Maybe because it lets you more room for imagination? To build a story in your head?

Anyway, it's stimulation for the brain (at least for mine).

FINGER

The moment you point the finger at someone criticizing or judging them:

Look how many fingers point at you!
Humans have problems with communication. You, me and everyone else.
Unfortunately we don't learn that in school. And some people never learn to communicate.
It is a life long journey. We have to switch from "me" to "you".
A conflict is not about being right. It is trying to really understand the other one.
And please try to understand and be understood.
We all are not perfect. We see and experience things differently.
If we fight, criticize each other and trying to be right and make the other one feel wrong, we will not find a solution. This is one reason why relationships fall apart.
LACK OF GOOD COMMUNICATION.
LISTEN, DON'T POINT YOUR FINGER, TRY TO UNDERSTAND AND BE UNDERSTOOD.
It's not about who is right or wrong. It's about how can we fix this as a team.

HOW can I be a better communicator?
Education! There is a lot of good imformation online.

But for starters, what worked best for me:
Let the other one finish their thoughts, without interruption. Let the person speak so long until they have nothing to say.
Then take a pause, think about what has been said.
Now it's your turn. Ask the other person to return the favor, to talk without being interrupted.

That's the first step. Being a good communicator and problem solver takes a life time of learning.

So let's start NOW!

PERSISTANCE

A party at the countryside is refreshing for the soul.
BUT.
It's nature! So many flies wanting to get some free food and drinks.
Impressive, how persistent they are!
You can move your hand as much you want, they come back to the exact same spot.
Probably laughing at you!
They have their goal in mind and nothing can stop them (except a newspaper).
At some point I just gave up and shared my drink with the fly.
Inspirational!
A little thing with a small brain has more willpower than a human.
Imagine, what would be possible if we would be persistent like the little fly!

:)

Do you see a face?
It's a very common phenomenon to see faces in ordinary objects.
Our brain is on overdrive interpreting things around us.
Babies process faces long before they recognize other objects.
Incredible moving images of unborn infants before their birth,
show that they turn their heads towards shapes which resemble faces. But when they see a random shape, they ignore it.

We all have this ability built in to see faces where there are none.

Fortunately, all the faces looking at me are friendly ones.