David's Blog

BAD DAY?

Are you having a bad day?
Remember the past! There are many situations where the bad was good for something!
Sometimes we don't realize it. Not in the moment and not later.
The picture is symbolic for me!
Oil is bad for the nature. It happened. You can't change it.
But I saw the heart! And it inspired me. Something good in the bad.
Now in future in difficult times, I will remember that picture.
And I will be aware and look out for the good in the bad.

YOU DECIDE!

A movie has a STORY.

A book has a STORY.
A song has a STORY.
People around you have a STORY.
A photo has .....

NO STORY!

It has a story, but it is your story.
In a movie or book you have more details and background.
A photo only has less than a second information.
Most of the time it does not tell a clear story.
The STORY you have is what your imagination sees.

Look at the pictures! Do you know what is going on?
No! You have a story in your mind, but you will never know what happened.
Maybe your story in your mind is the exact the same what happened. Maybe.
But you will never know for sure.

That's one of the reasons photography is so amazing!
It fires up your imagination. It lets you decide what to see.

ROSES

"Some people complain that roses have thorns. I am grateful that thorns have roses."

WHY?
Why in general do people pay more attention to little negative parts of something, than rather put the focus on the big positve parts?
WHY?
"Don't be ignorant. Be a realist" would someone say.
YES?
Ok, let's not be ignorant and be realist and see the positive as well. Let's put at least or even more attention on the positve.
I don't understand why people leave out the good and blow up the negative.

WHY?
Is it useful?
Absolutly not!
So WHY?
It really doesn't matter WHY.

What matters is NOW!
NOW let's focus more on the positive and less on the negative!
For sure, we have to see the negative, but even so we have to see the positive.

"What we put on our attention, grows!"
"Ignore bad behavior and reward good behavior" - It's psychology! It works (also with animals).
What do we do?
Pay attention to the negative behavior and ignore the good behavior.

WRONG!

So instead of criticizing, we should be complimenting.
Let's pay attention to the good parts of a human being.
Let's compliment, so there will be even more of the good and less of the bad.

Of course roses have thorns - But there is more rose than thorns!

ASSUME

We all do it! But more in a negative way.

Someone told me:
"Just go to the newspaper office and tell them about your project - and expect that they might say NO"
Go somewhere and expect a negative outcome?
Why?
If I expect the rejection, it will make it less painful?
NO WAY!
I'm going there expecting, that they say YES!
Maybe they won't. Maybe not that day. But I will expecting a YES and come again and again until they say YES.
It's also a technique used by salesmen - "ASSUME the sale".
They see a customer and assume he wants to buy the product.
That way of thinking influences the behavior of the salesmen and customer.
I assume a YES and if it is not a YES now, it will be a YES later.

It's like with the sun, I 100% assume it will rise again tomorrow.

YOUR DECISION

You can see in everything only the bad.

OR.

You can see in everything only the good.

After a looooong journey from Mexico to Germany, I was very tired and hungry.
My parents and I went to a restaurant to eat something quick and go home.
We ordered and waited. And waited.
It took forever!
We started making jokes about it. We laughed a lot!
My dad said that his face hurts from laughing.
We took that bad situation and instead of getting upset we had fun.

In the end I told my parents:
"I am glad the food came very late - we had an awesome time because of that."

It's your decision how you see a certain situation.

You can see the picture and think:

"It's rude!"
or
"What a beautiful ring!".

Your decision.

MORNING

"Good morning"

Why don't people wish "Awesome morning!" ?
Why be average?
I love the morning. It's like a new chapter in a book.
Everything is possible!
You have energy and many blank pages to fill. You have the power to write an awesome story!
How you feel and think in the morning influences your day.
When we wake up we start in our mind to think in images what we have to do this day.
But that's it.
Why don't we use our imagination to think: what we would like to experience?
For example:
You wake up and think:
After work I will go the grocery store and have to buy bananas and eggs.
Why don't we think:
After a successful day of work (where the boss gave me a compliment) I'm going to buy what I need and a beautiful woman will smile at me, I will talk to her and we will exchange numbers.
Our imagination has no limits!
What we think influences our actions.
We have to challenge this muscle (imagination) so it grows!
So when we wake up, let's try to imagine how we would like to have this new day!
It's an experiment.
I will try it!

WAITING

The whole life we spend waiting.

Waiting to be happy.
Waiting to try something new.
Waiting to achieve our dreams.
Waiting to face our fears.
Waiting to " ".

No! The "tomorrow" is TODAY.

I don't want to waste my precious gift (time) for waiting.

WAITING is WASTING.

NOW is the time!

NO MORE MEXICO!

..says Salvador Dali, a surreal painter.
"By no means will I return to Mexico, I cannot stand being in a country more surrealistic than my paintings." - Salvador Dali likes surreal art. She currently is working on drawing a portrait of Salvador Dali.
Diana likes surreal art. She currently is working on drawing a portrait of Salvador Dali.
We were talking about why we like surrealism.
Because it is not ordinary! It's stimulating for the brain.
Also surreal artist don't make art with the thought in mind "how can I sell it to the masses"?
They don't care. They love what they do and do not follow rules!
Mexico is the place to be if you like surrealism. I love Mexico, a country full of creativity, surrealism, crazy and people with big hearts.​

ZERO

All the girls at pole dancing class were amazing.
They are getting closer to be as great like their teacher Cinthya.
The students know many moves and difficult ones - Wow!
What makes the teacher stand out is:
She makes it look appear so easy, like it is not exhausting or hard.
Then I was thinking, she started like everyone: at zero.
She has been struggling, too. Maybe she had points in her journey, where she wanted to stop or didn't believe she can't be on the top.
But you can see: she believed in herself and never stopped practicing and believing!
And her students are on their way to be on the top, too!
We have to remember, we all start at zero.
It's great to be with people who are persistent and have strong faith. Inspiring!
And if we are aware that they were where we are today, we know we can achieve the same:
By being persistent and believing that we can go from ZERO to HERO!​

JUST ASK

It has been a dream of mine to shoot sensual photos.

Recently I asked myself: "What did you do to achieve your dream?" - Nothing.
And why call it a dream? Dreams are not real, they are dreams.
"Let's not dream anymore! - Let's plan!"
I started asking! And I got a YES!
That's just the beginning. I will ask more.
And I already have plans for more sensual shootings!

NO MORE DREAMS!

We are programming ourselves wrong by saying "my dream is.."
Dreams are not real.
From now on I will say: "my plan is.."
Dreams are for the night. Plans are for the day.
Enough of the dreaming!
Let's start planning & doing!

Just ask. The chance to get a yes are much higher if you ask.
If you don't ask then it is a NO by default.

ASK!

Big applause for the girls! They did their thing for 2 hours! I tried it and it was too much already after a few minutes.

TO MY LOVE

You are the first thing I think of when I wake up.

The moment you touch my lips in the morning is the best!
You bring color into my life.
Once you are in my system, you make me dance!
A day without you? Horrible! It gives me a big headache.
You make me happy no matter what state you are in: regular with chile, espresso, cappuccino or latte machiato.
Sometimes I am with you too much.. and you keep me up at night.
But no problem, even if I sleep a little - you give me energy the next day!
Sometimes I go with energy drinks (it's not the same!). But you always forgive me!
How would life be without, my love? No, I don't want to imagine that.
Stay with me - Always!

I love you!

MEXICO

One of the many reasons I love Mexico is:

You can make jokes about other people and they love it!
Also they make jokes about themselves and you!
In Mexico people have a good sense of humor. Not at all sensitve!
So, if you visit Mexico - don't be offended if people make jokes on your account.
They don't have bad intentions. That's just the culture!

With Raul (the security guard) you can make all kinds of jokes!

Me: Look, you have a twin!
Raul: Oh, I never saw him.
Me: More security! They should pay you double!
Raul: Yes! Double food & double vacation!
David: He is more black than you!
Raul: Yes, they let my brother longer in the sun!

FREEDOM

No matter which place I have been living, birds always came to my home and were living with me. Some made even a nest!

I like symbolism - Birds represent freedom.
We humans don't have wings, but we can be free, too.
Free of the need of approval, free of worries, free of any kind of dependence, free of debt , free of pain.
There are many things we are or could be free of!

From what do you want to be free? What things (or people) right now in your life are not letting you to be free?

Look at that thing/person who is not letting you to be free and make a decision to mentally fly away from it.

WANT

The weekend trip I planned did not work out as I wanted.

I wanted something and I did not get it.
Later I realized that I really did not want it.
I asked myself "Why did I want it? - What's behind the WANT?"
Then I realized what I desire. But the means to get it I don't want.
Complicated, right?
An unrelated example:
You want a cigarette. Then you smoke it and find it disgusting. Why did you want it?
To change your state and to get a dopamine rush. But there are better ways to fulfil that need.
You can go for a walk to change your thoughts or do intense exercise to get the same effect (even better).
You want something but the method to get it you don't really want.
Maybe you think that's the only or best option. No, it isn't!
Or you want 1 Million Dollars. Why do you want it?
Security, less worries, status, living your dreams, a new car, creating a company, etc.....
Why?
And can't you achieve the same without the Million Dollars? YES!
Imagine you have all those things! What's next?
Behind all the desires there is something behind it.
Maybe it is significance? But that you can achieve without the Million.
Like with the cigarette. There is a reason behind it. Do you know it?
What is the desire? And how can we achieve it?
To feel significant in life - you can that, even without the Million!
From now on I will ask myself: "What is behind the desire? And what are my options? There is not only ONE way to fulfil that desire!

BLOCK IT

Did you ever think how much the daily words and thoughts affect your happiness?

Bad news starting in the morning. Later in the day you hear people complaining.
In between you give attention to your thoughts of worry.
On the way home you hear somebody telling a bad story.
At home you watch a movie about people killing other people and you end the day with some more bad news.

Now let's imagine another routine.
You get up, read some inspiring quotes. Be grateful for what you have.
Later you meet people complaining. You smile and ask them "what good did you experience today?". "For what are you grateful today?".
Worries come and you smile. I will win this game! And come to the next level.
Somebody you know, tells you a bad story. You ask: What is the good in the bad story? "How can you benefit? Also, tell me something good you experienced today!"

Everywhere there is negativity waiting to enter our system. People do not notice!
Be on guard, be aware. Once you are aware you can block it.

"What you pay attention to grows"

HAPPY

Music makes happy! You, scientists - we all know that!

But did you know it helps to ease pain and depression?
Very powerful!
When you listen to music the brain releases dopamine.
Music also helps to perform better at the gym and sports. Legal, natural doping!
It has the power to release in us different kind of emotions and even goose bumps!

Other benefits:

- Reduce anxiety as much as a massage
- Improves visual & verbal skills
- Keeps an aging brain healthy
- Improves sleep quality
- Boosts your immune system
- Music helps Alzheimer's patients remember
- Music raises IQ and academic performance

WOW - Thank you for the music!

BEAUTY

What is beauty and who defines it?

A famous woman on a cover magazine with a lot of make up, professional lighting / photographer and A LOT of photoshop - this is beauty?
Maybe I need glasses or something is wrong with me. I don't like any of the famous female models.
They are all plastic to me - mannequins.

For me beauty is a mix of personality, smile, a big heart, humor and the way of thinking. And also how a woman treats me. That is beauty!

Sometimes it happened to me, that you see a pretty woman (walking down the street). Pretty by worldly standards.
And then she opens her mouth and she loses all the beauty she had before.

On the covers there should be women with attractive personalities and not mannequins with tons of makeup.

And I am sure that those famous models can be beautiful, too! Stop putting tons of make up on, put away the arrogance, the empty stare, eat some more food and show your real you!
Yes, show your fears and weakness - that is attractive!

ANGRY

Anger and sadness go hand in hand. Being angry is a sign that someone is not happy.

Imagine the situation: You drive home to work and somebody cuts you off in traffic: you take it personal and you get angry.
Next morning you wake up and realize you won the lottery. Now you drive to the bank to get the money.
On the way to the bank, again somebody cuts you off. Do you feel angry? Do you think how unfair the world is and how people are ignorant?
Do you take it personal?

No way! You don't care! You are happy! You see! People and circumstances are not causing your anger - You are!

If someone is angry, they are not happy. Make them happy! Say a compliment or show them understanding.
Don't let the anger go over to you. Stop it immediately by showing compassion.

And if you are angry? What causes you unhappiness right now in your life? How can you fix it?

Be happy!

CRITICAL VOICE

Don't argue with your critical voice in your head. Don't tell it "shut up".

That doesn't help. It makes it worse.
Not giving attention is the best to shut up that voice.

Psychology:
Like with kids, workers, partners and dogs:
"Ignore bad behavior and reward good behavior."
Don't give attention to bad thoughts or bad behavior.
Reinforce the good thoughts and good behavior.

For example:
You have a girlfriend who causes drama.
Don't get emotional. She will know that she can get your attention and a reaction out of you.
Bad. You will reinforce bad behavior. The drama will increase.
Better ask: "Do you want to fight or resolve this like adults?".
If she doesn't cooperate, walk away - every time.
When there is a fight and you apologize, give more attention, more affection and good make up sex -
you just reinforced her bad behavior and she will repeat it even more. And soon you will live in a soap opera.
No, better give a lot of attention and affection when she is doing good things for you.
What ever you reward (and put attention to) good or bad - it will grow.

Ignore bad behavior and only reward good behavior.

That applies to any aspect of human (or animal) connections.
And also to thoughts. Ignore the critical voice, don't argue and don't get emotional about it.

PRESENCE

Something attracted me to take the picture of the gentleman in the restaurant.

I didn't know first what it was. Later I looked at the photo and realized what fascinated me in that moment:
Everybody was doing something, having headphones in their ears, reading a newspaper, talking or being on the phone.
He was just being present. People always need some distraction.
Can you imagine waiting somewhere and just "being" instead of "doing" (distraction).
Being "in the moment" gives you "presence", which gets you attention from other people.
His presence caught my attention!

Is technology really helping us to make better connections?
I don't think so.

Next time when you are waiting and public: don't pull out your phone.
AND.
Look how many people are not taking part of life.
It's crazy how many! I am guilty of it, too.
That's not being present!
I make a promise to myself:
Only to use the phone to respond to important messages.
No more browsing the internet in public.
You are in line in a coffee shop?
Observe the people - Smile, make connections!