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LOVE SYMBOL

In Leon there is a bridge where couples who are "in love" or should I rather say: "on love", like they are "on drugs"? (Which they indeed are - technically).

They put a lock as a symbol of love on the bridge.
Really? That's the correct symbol?
Locks represents: you want to keep something secure. Or you want to lock somebody away (prison). Locks are about CONTROL.

People think when they are "in love" that is love.
No, those are chemicals. Beautiful ones, for sure!
But, love is not a feeling. It is an ACTION.
If you really love someone, you let them be free and not try to change or control them. The person you "love" is not your property.

What happens if you grab a soap tight in the shower?
It will slip away.

For me the symbol of love is: a soap.

Grab it to hard, it will slip away.
Try to change its form (demands), it won't be beautiful anymore.

If you love someone, let them go, let them be free, let them BE and accept them as they are.

If you try to control someone, try to change them or put them in a prison:
It is selfish and not love.

"I love you when....."
This is not love. This is manipulation.

What symbol do you think represents best "love" ?

PRESENT

Some surreal moments from a party at the countryside.

Good conversations.
One topic stayed in my mind.
We were talking how fast time goes by.....
It's true!

"It is not the years in your life but the life in your years that counts."

We are wasting time by worrying, being nostalgic and planning.
"I'll be happy when.."
No!
NOW is the time to be happy and to live.
The past and the future doesn't exist.
If we are living in the past or in the future, were are missing the PRESENT!

It's called present because it is a present.

Don't waste this moment with thinking too much about yesterday or tomorrow.

WATER

We all know how amazing and essential water is for life. There are many interesting facts!

But did you know that water has kind of a consciousness?

Scientist did an experiment, exposing different kinds of music to water. After it they froze the water and observed it under a microscope.
Classical, happy music produced beautiful crystals. Heavy metal, aggressive and sad music resulted in deformed crystals.

The same results were found with words. Words were spoken regulary to the water. Same results like with the music. Positive words: symmetrical, beautiful crystals.
Negative words: deformed crystals.

The average human body is about 60% water. Think about that!

Our words and thoughts have power. It effects water! How much of an impact do they then have on us and others?

Massive!

So take care what you think and say.

HIGH HEELS

Women look and walk super sexy with high heels.

The only disadvantge is: as a man you have to slow down (a lot) if you accompany a woman with high heels.
But it's totally worth it!
Did you know that the first high heels were worn by men?
Yes, the French royals long time ago wore them, then women.
Am I jealous? No at all! I prefer women wear them.
I could not imagine walking slow, taking care of my balance, having to watch my every step and having pain in the of the day.

Ladies, thank you for sacrificing yourself to look pretty for us!

MYSTERY

"Anything that is kept secret or remains unexplained or unknown"

Of course, if someone wants a portrait, they want to be seen!
But why not have some "mystery" shots as well?
I can't explain why I am so attracted to this type of photos.
Maybe because it lets you more room for imagination? To build a story in your head?

Anyway, it's stimulation for the brain (at least for mine).

FINGER

The moment you point the finger at someone criticizing or judging them:

Look how many fingers point at you!
Humans have problems with communication. You, me and everyone else.
Unfortunately we don't learn that in school. And some people never learn to communicate.
It is a life long journey. We have to switch from "me" to "you".
A conflict is not about being right. It is trying to really understand the other one.
And please try to understand and be understood.
We all are not perfect. We see and experience things differently.
If we fight, criticize each other and trying to be right and make the other one feel wrong, we will not find a solution. This is one reason why relationships fall apart.
LACK OF GOOD COMMUNICATION.
LISTEN, DON'T POINT YOUR FINGER, TRY TO UNDERSTAND AND BE UNDERSTOOD.
It's not about who is right or wrong. It's about how can we fix this as a team.

HOW can I be a better communicator?
Education! There is a lot of good imformation online.

But for starters, what worked best for me:
Let the other one finish their thoughts, without interruption. Let the person speak so long until they have nothing to say.
Then take a pause, think about what has been said.
Now it's your turn. Ask the other person to return the favor, to talk without being interrupted.

That's the first step. Being a good communicator and problem solver takes a life time of learning.

So let's start NOW!

PERSISTANCE

A party at the countryside is refreshing for the soul.
BUT.
It's nature! So many flies wanting to get some free food and drinks.
Impressive, how persistent they are!
You can move your hand as much you want, they come back to the exact same spot.
Probably laughing at you!
They have their goal in mind and nothing can stop them (except a newspaper).
At some point I just gave up and shared my drink with the fly.
Inspirational!
A little thing with a small brain has more willpower than a human.
Imagine, what would be possible if we would be persistent like the little fly!

:)

Do you see a face?
It's a very common phenomenon to see faces in ordinary objects.
Our brain is on overdrive interpreting things around us.
Babies process faces long before they recognize other objects.
Incredible moving images of unborn infants before their birth,
show that they turn their heads towards shapes which resemble faces. But when they see a random shape, they ignore it.

We all have this ability built in to see faces where there are none.

Fortunately, all the faces looking at me are friendly ones.

PERVERT!

That's what someone could have thought, seeing me there for many minutes taking pictures of the sexy mannequins.

Yes, I love this kind of underwear.
BUT.
Also, I am fascinated of mannequins, shop windows and reflections.
How many people walking by noticed the broken boobies from the mannequins?
The camera makes me feel that I see more than people without the camera!
Why? Because I stay longer with an object, I look closer and from different angles.
That all taught me photography.
Also I learned that there is not only ONE version of what we think or see.
There are many! We have to have the courage to question what we see or believe.
Otherwise we are only robots. Everything is dimensional and not only objects but also humans and situations.
Dare to see the things from different angles!

WHAT KIND OF PHOTOS..

.. do you take? - People have been asking me in my journey as a photographer.

Even though I know that it is a popular question, I don't have an answer.
"A photo says more than 1000 words" - And I show them my photos.
Really, what can I say? What do you see? Surreal? Abstract? Mysterious?

How would you describe it?

F... YOU - THANK YOU

Shop windows, mannequins, sexy underwear & someone doing something next to the mannequins: I love that setup!

I was taking pictures of the mannequins when a young girl (working there) showed me the middle finger with an angry face.

I was laughing so hard, that the following pictures were all blurry.
While laughing I checked, if a got that beautiful moment.
Yes, I got it!
I showed the girl the finger as well, but the thumb: (y) and said: THANK YOU!

Afterwards I got inspired:
In future, if people want to provoke me, criticize me, play games, try to make me jealous or start to fight with me:
I will smile and inside myself I will say: Thank you, I don't want your negative energy in my system.

And I'll keep on walking.

SURREAL PORTRAITS.

Surrealism. What is that? And why do people call something surreal?

Liz and I were talking about it at an surreal art exhibition.
"That's strange" people say about things which are not ordinary.

But in fact they are not strange. Imagine if there would be more of those strange things, then the ordinary objects would become strange.
All over the world, we have more or less the same style of things.
But imagine a country which almost has nothing from "our world".
People from that country visiting our "ordinary" country, would be totally perplexed about the amount of surrealism.

I'm attraced to surrealism. It is refreshing & stimulating for the mind.

A new project is born: SURREAL PORTRAITS.

NUMBER ONE

I have been thinking a lot: what is the number one ingredient which makes a portrait great?

There are many ingredients: light, shadows, location, background, camera settings, the right lens, creativity and a good connection to the model.
All of them are important.

BUT.

Which is the number ONE?

For me the number one ingredient for a great portrait is:
AUTHENTICITY! The moment where the wall is down, being "lost in thought", not thinking about the camera, having a raw emotion.
That's why I don't like portraits where you smile. A smile is like a wall. One exception: if the smile is natural, then it's ok.
Do you know what I mean?

We all walk around with a walls. I hear somebody screaming: "No, not me". Ok, there are exceptions. But I believe we all walk around with walls, some bigger - some smaller.

For my taste, you can sacrifice all other ingredients, as long as you get an authentic, raw moment with the model.
There are so many beautiful portrait photos out there. Everything is perfect, but the one ingredient is missing: authenticity.
And I have been guilty of it, too. Most of my portraits have this missing ingredient. Because I was not aware of it.

This is what I want to focus on more. Catch the authentic moment.

NONCONFORMIST

Dictionary: "a person who refuses to conform, as to established customs, attitudes, or ideas."

The SYSTEM wants people not to stand out. Followers are not a danger and easier to control.
The programming works. People keep a low profile, follow trends, don't give contra and COPY to be part of it.
What happenes to those who go against trends and who think their own thoughts? Exactly!

Look at the pictures! Where did your focus go? To the "followers" or the nonconformist?

There is beauty going against the flow.

Writing this article I just realized, that the one doesn't exist with the other.
So in order for the noconformist to shine, we NEED followers.

But a few more noncoformists wouldn't hurt, no?

ANTICIPATION

As a photographer you have to see moments before they happen.

No, a photographer can't see the future.
But with practice you can predict chances for a great moment.

I saw this man with the doughnuts waiting for the green light.
Right behind him. With the man standing there, it was already a great setup (for my taste).
But I was expecting something more. So I was patiently waiting.
And "BOOM" he turned around. You can't imagine how happy I was. He looked straight into my camera.

I saw a great opportunity and expected more.
Can it be that if we expect something (good or bad) that our expectations influence our surrounding?

I like to believe that.
AND
Be aware what I think and expect.

PERSPECTIVE

With the right angle boring ordinary moments can become interesting.

Through the years as a photographer I have learned that there is not only "one" version.
A situation, a problem can be different than it first appears to us.
We are used to believe (through experience) our notions. But can we be wrong?
Yes! We don't like to admit it, but yes we can be wrong about a feeling or impression.
Does it mean to doubt everything? No, let's not get paranoid!
It means that EVERYTHING has different versions.
For example: "confirmation bias".
If we believe something, we are looking for ALL the evidence which confirms our belief.
BUT we leave out the evidence which contradicts our current belief.
So to be on the safe side, we should gather evidence pro and contra ABOUT a belief we have.
AND than make a judgement.

I believe I got my point across or didn't I?

Ok to be sure let's look at an example:

If you believe your partner is unfaithful. Look not only at the things which confirm your belief.
Look also on actions & "evidence" that shows that your partner is faithful.

Whatever the truth is (you probably won't ever know), you should rather act and believe in any situation the positive.
It's better to be proven wrong believing the positive than being proven wrong believing the negative.
Your beliefs influence your actions BIG TIME.

Perspective.

HABITS

Where I live there is not much inspiration for photography. Boring.

That's what I thought. But then I realized that if I am more conscious and stop being robotic about my routine (daily walks around my neighborhood), I "see more".
Habits. The routes we walk, drive or the people we see on a regular basis become flat.

We are used to them. Our brain is lazy, thats why it forms habits to save energy.
Wake up! Put more attention on your daily routine!

LESS IS MORE

Very attractive. In many areas. Also in communication. Not many words necessary. Where in YOUR life can you use LESS?

BEING PRESENT

We all heard that term. Back in the past I associated it with meditation, which wasn't interesting to me.
But I kept on hearing that word many times and did not notice that I have been practicing for years!
Every time when I went out shooting I have being present without knowing it.
We all have thoughts all day. Around 60.000 thoughts in one day!
And mostly those thoughts are about yesterday and tomorrow. And we are not aware of it!
When I go out taking pictures my mind is blank. I do not think about yesterday nor tomorrow.
I am being present. And it is intense. Also I feel more relaxed and happier during and after taking pictures.
Focusing your whole attention in the moment is intense!
How many people are walking around like zombies every day? Being with there thoughts somewhere else?
We are not experiencing the present! The past and the future does not exist! But still we are so occupied with it.
How can you experience the present without meditation? Easy! Right where you are look for things which are red.
Keep on looking. You will suddenly see so many red things! Try it!
Or are you to occupied with your thoughts about "time" which does not exist?
Try it! How did it feel to be present? Did you think about yesterday or tomorrow?

THOUGHTS

Today I saw this man and pulled out my cell phone very fast. What I liked in that moment, was his shirt matching almost the color of the bus. Plus the reflection. This moment made me so happy. I got the picture I wanted!

After I took the picture I sat down with some ice cream and realized how much joy photography gave me over the years.
More than anything else.

This realization is also a benefit of photography. If you keep taking a lot pictures over time, you will get more attentive with your surrounding and with yourself.