PRISON

We all live in a prison. The prison of our mind.

Our mind is "protecting" us from harm.
But it is ridiculous.
What harm is there to dance on the street? Singing in a train full of people?
Giving that pretty stranger a smile?

Dear mind, what is the danger?
"You could be seen as a fool and get rejected"
That's it?
It is worse to be in a prison!

Outside of the prision is the action.
Dear mind, I know you have good intentions, but you are not helping me!
You are hurting me, keeping me locked up.

Your voice will never stop.
But in future if I want to leave my comfort zone, I will count 5-4-3-2-1!
And step out of my comfort zone (prison)!
I won't listen anymore to your voice.
You have no power to keep me away from being FREE.

Are you listening?

Or just hearing?

Most people hear, but don‘t listen.

Listening means:

- pay full attention
- thinking about what has been said
- not preparing a reply while the other is talking
- trying to understand
- remembering what has been said

Did you know that when someone really listens to you, it releases “Dopamine”, the happy hormone?
The world would be a much happier place, if people would be hearing AND listening!

“Listening is a master skill for personal and professional greatness.”

WATER

We all know how amazing and essential water is for life. There are many interesting facts!

But did you know that water has kind of a consciousness?

Scientist did an experiment, exposing different kinds of music to water. After it they froze the water and observed it under a microscope.
Classical, happy music produced beautiful crystals. Heavy metal, aggressive and sad music resulted in deformed crystals.

The same results were found with words. Words were spoken regulary to the water. Same results like with the music. Positive words: symmetrical, beautiful crystals.
Negative words: deformed crystals.

The average human body is about 60% water. Think about that!

Our words and thoughts have power. It effects water! How much of an impact do they then have on us and others?

Massive!

So take care what you think and say.

Universe Bank

Surely you know this situation where you do favors for a person. Not because you gain something or expect anything. You do it, because you feel good about it.
When nothing comes back, you are fine.
 
But how do you feel, when you do many favors for a person and one day, you need their help.
You ask about a little favor. Much less than you did for them in the past.
And you get either silence, false promises & cancellations last minute.
How do you feel? Giving a lot and not getting something little back, when you need them?
 
Horrible!
 
It happens a lot, unfortunately.
Of course, there are many exceptions. You do favors and you get it back much more.
You get things in return, which you did not expect at all.
Those are people with character. They will be happy in life!
Those selfish people who only take, will never find true happiness.
 
What helps me is to think all the good favors you do, go into the “Universe Bank”.
You will get it back, plus interest. From someone other than the person you helped.

It is true!
 
Also, the “Universe Bank” works the other way around.
If you are selfish, take only credit, but don’t pay it back. You will be punished somehow.
Don’t mess with the “Universe Bank”. They can be worse than American Express.

FINDING YOURSELF

Many people are on a quest to "find themselves".

Are you lost? Why do you have to find yourself?

That expression is weird. And doesn't sound good.
You are shaped by your history and experiences.
People, media and society shapes us.
We learn to be afraid, to conform and not to stand out.
I think what people really want is to break out of that prison.
It's not about "finding" yourself. It's about CREATING yourself.
Who do you want to be? What do you want to do?

BE IT and DO IT.

Don't be confined by the prison the system put you in.
It's hard to break free from years of programming. But it is possible and

STARTS with YOU.

"Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself."

Enlightenment

Some seek it, some not.

Those who seek it, look for it in meditation, travels, drugs, gurus, books or challenges.

 

I found it, without looking, in photography.

 

It combines all of the methods above!

 

- Having your camera in front of your face feels like: meditation

- The camera lets you explorer places, you wouldn’t usually visit: travel

- Looking for, and getting the right “moment”, the perfect shot makes super happy & that is addictive: drugs

- If you are an active photographer you meet many people, some of them inspire you: gurus

- Being in love with photography makes you curious about life and you experience what others only read about: books

- Photography is not about talent. It is more about practice and patience. Constantly improving: challenges.

 

So, enlightenment, which means for everyone something different, you may get by taking pictures. A lot of pictures.

 

For me photography, is compared to the movie Matrix – taking the blue pill.

Do you visualize?

If yes, then you know the benefits already.

If no, give it a try! It’s proven by science that visualizing can improve your performance, make you more confident and happier.

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Photography is a present!

A present which puts you into the present.

 

Before I had a camera, I would never spend hours observing butterflies.

I was missing out!

It is so refreshing for your mind and soul to be in the present and put your attention 100% outside of yourself.

You can escape your voice in your head and the constant thoughts about yesterday and tomorrow.

You just have to go and take your camera. Cell phone is fine, too!

 

Try it!

Go to a place were you would usually not go. Be there with your camera. Be in the moment. Be happy!

You have an option!

Every day there are many opportunities to get angry, stressed or offended. But what you're doing when you let these negative emotions in, is giving something outside yourself power over your happiness. You can choose to not let little things upset you.

 

BE HAPPY

A friend of mine wrote those words o my note board in the kitchen.

I have been thinking about her words.
And now it came to me!
Happiness is an action, a decision!
“Be” means to take action!

Happiness can be constructed!
You don’t have to wait to get it from something or someone!

Now I wrote on my board:

“Today is going to be the best day of my life.”

BE HAPPY!

REALITY DOES NOT EXIST

Every human sees life and situations different.
We experience what is right in front of us with a filter.
Also, what we see takes time to get to our brain.
It’s very fast, but still there is a delay.
What we see in front of us is actually the past.
So then how can reality exist?
We see everything through a filter and delayed.

It’s a distortion.

So how can reality exist if we can’t experience it?

MANIPULATION

You know often in life what people do or not do, makes you wonder:
WHY?
There is not always an explanation about people’s actions.
And sometimes people do strange things, because they are insecure or want to manipulate you.
It’s not about you. It’s about them. Whatever the truth is, I want to choose to believe the most positive version of a situation.
We don’t know the truth why people do what they do.
Sometimes we are even wrong with our assumptions about a situation.
Our brains tend to look more for the negative, to protect us.
But we have a choice!
Every time, we are faced with a situation, where we don’t know the truth behind someone’s action, we can choose the most positive explanation!
Better to think positive and be proven wrong.
Then to think negative and to be proven wrong.
That is a better protection! With that way of thinking, the insecurity of other people doesn’t infect us.
And if you always choose the most positive version of any situation, you take away the power of any manipulator.

A manipulator has power over you, if you are unsure and doubting.
If you think the most positive version of any action/inaction, you win.

HANDS

They are fascianating!
Everything you see was build with hands.
Even if they used machines, still they were operated by hands.
Hands can do good and also bad.
They just follow orders from your brain.
People communicate with hands, writing messages.

So fascinating!

High 5!

“In order to succeed, we must first believe that we can.”

Believe - what does that mean?

According to the dictionary it is “confidence in something even without proof.”
You believe that the sun will rise again tomorrow, don’t you?
Even without evidence - we know the next beautiful sunrise is waiting for us.
That same strong belief we need for our plans.

Believe, take action and your plans come true!

ADDICTED?

How often are you checking your phone during the day?

Are you checking it when you are with someone, too?

Recently I went to a road trip and forgot my phone at home.

It was great! I paid more attention to my surrounding and the people I interacted with.

Even if knew that I was without my phone, it happened a few times my hand went into my pocket.

What a crazy habit. A prison.

Without the phone you are more in the moment.

You don't need to be available all time!

Also it makes a better impression if you are with someone and give 100% of your attention to that person.

Imagine you are in nature walking, thinking about your ideas, plans AND then you get a text or Facebook notification, it takes you totally away from being in the moment.

I love WhatsApp and Facebook, but I don't want to be chained to it 24 hours!

It does more harm than good.

Try it, if you can, to switch the phone off for a few hours.

Can you?

LETTING GO

We all know for our health it is best to let go.

Let go of the past.
Let go of "what might have been"
Let go of people who don't enrich our life and slow us down.
Let go of emotions.

How to let go?

I do it like that:
In the night when I do my daily walks, there is a place where is dark and you can see the stars very clear.
That is my "Happy Place". Only positivity allowed.
There I talk to the person I want to let go.
That person is not there. But I talk out loud, as if that person would be there.
Then I talk about what I am grateful for, the good and bad experiences.
I am happy and grateful for having met that person.

After that:
I wish from my heart all the best for that person.

That's it. This is how I let go.
There are no more bad feelings. No questions & no answers.
I let go.

A chapter closed.

And in the case if I remember that person one day:
I say quietly in my mind "Thank You".
And that person disappears.

Easy.

Happy End.

REGRET

„Regretting time is even more wasted time" says the tattoo on Diana's leg.

Regret is not helping us.
Our life experiences shape us, good and bad.
We learn. And we avoid repeating same bad experiences.

One day I was tortured with regrets about my life.
Then asked myself: "Are you happy with your life and who you are?" – YES!
So, I made the right decisions.

Regretting things, you have NOT DONE is even worse.

So, DO & take ACTION, collect more experiences (good & bad) and take risks, so your future self does not regret anything.

DON'T ACCEPT IT

How do you deal with negativity, jealousy, criticism, insults and accusations of people?

Imagine:

If someone wants to give you a present and you kindly don't accept it - what happens to the present?
The present stays with that person.

Words have energy. The whole universe is full of energy.
If you don't react the energy stays with that person.

Like a mirror. Which bounces back the light.

You don't have to react, answer, explain or defend yourself.

Stay positive, be aware and guard yourself of negativity!

"I wasn't really naked. I simply didn't have any clothes on."

Kids don't have shame. They scream, dance and show their feelings.

They connect easily with other kids. They say what they desire.
They are impulsive and playful.

We adults have shame, act serious and hide our feelings.
We struggle to make new connections. We don't talk about our desires.
We are very analytical and overly protective.

why?

We learned it.

But we can un-learn it!

Kids learn from adults. Can't adults learn from kids?

How would the world look like if the adults would be more like kids?

NO MORE DREAMS

I used to have many dreams. Not anymore!

Dreams are fiction and for the night.
I used to dream to do sensual artistic photos.
But it was just a dream. What I did do to make it happen?
Nothing.
I decided to have PLANS instead of dreams.
Plans are real.
So I started to tell my friends about my plans.
And everything changed.

Dreams for the night.
Plans for the day.